Should we still be idolising old rom coms or much loved TV series if they haven't aged well in today’s society?

For example, after recently binging on loads of old friends episodes, there is a lot of shit in there that made me feel some kinda way. Chandler's relationship with his father is seen as strained due to his father being transgender, she is mislabeled throughout and is the butt of jokes in numerous episodes. Being constantly referred to as her birth name rather than her chosen name, which doesn't really give off a great insight into how a family relationship can remain happy/healthy when transitioning comes into it. 
Every women is a conquest for Joey which is laughed about in the show and it doesn't seem that deep but is it really? He's also prone to imagining his female friends in lesbian/threesome scenarios and ain't nobody got time for that sexism. 
Rachel also showed some great examples of a boss/assistant relationship in the show when she hired Tag because she fancied him instead of a female who was actually better qualified, and then hid the fact they were dating.
Ross was grossed out by breast milk, and the idea of breast feeding in general, the whole thing seemed like an alien concept to him even though his is how his babies were fed.
We also see the same recurring shit in rom coms, you probably didn't notice when you were younger but re watching old films its hard to not get annoyed by things. For instance, a lot of times the lead male will start off as an absolute arse hole, which women love to hate, there will be some kind of funny mishap in the street where a girl bumps into a guy or takes his taxi and he will act like a dick about it. She will be offended but also intrigued by how very 'different' this guy is, and generally he is really fit. But we will soon realise he actually has a heart of gold and that there is a deep, underlying reason that he is the way he is. We're then supposed to feel sorry for him and start to connect with him on some level because he is damaged. 
There’s always a friend in the office or at a bar who gives great advice, they’re often cast as quirky or nerdy characters, so is therefore only there to provide advice for the hot female lead and not get any themselves. 
Rom coms give off the impression that if you are turned down by a man then you should go home straight away get in your pyjamas, binge on a load of ice cream while spending the whole night self loathing. Forget all about your friends or your career. Up until the love interest is suddenly interested again, and then you magically appear like as if nothing happened. Which is a really good example of self love and how you should value and look after yourself (apparently).
Examples 
In the Notebook, Noah convinced Allie to go on a date with him by threatening to jump off the Ferris Wheel, although Allie thought his persistence was sweet, its also creepy af. 
13 going on 30, great concept and intended message of not loosing your self, but the film kinda stinks of the same old women can't be bad ass hustlers who have a great career without sacrificing other aspects of their life vibes. Jenna had her dream job working at a fashion magazine, but no healthy relationship with her family, she had lost contact with her true childhood friend and then when she went back to fix it all its unclear how she then spent the next 17 years to end up in a house in the suburbs with her child hood sweetheart, and if she still had the killer job or not. 
She's All That, the male lead agrees to bet he can make any girl in the school the next prom queen, he then goes on to give the female lead (who is the school nerd) a make over which aligns with his ideals of what he wants to girl to look like, she then magically transforms from a joke to exactly what he wants. A woman should never change herself, whether it's her appearance or goals, to please any man. 
500 Days of Summer, the female lead is only seen through the male leads eyes. Gordon-Levitt even admitted he didn't like his character. “He develops a mildly delusional obsession over a girl onto whom he projects all these fantasies,” he remembered. “He thinks she’ll give his life meaning because he doesn’t care about much else going on in his life… That’s not healthy. That’s falling in love with the idea of a person, not the actual person.” 
Devil wears Prada, female lead Andrea is in a happy committed relationship until she starts taking her job as Priestly's co-assistant seriously, as she progresses in the role her relationship suffers more and more which inevitably ends in a break up.
Nate was whiny, annoying, and holding Andy back from her true potential as a girl boss because he was scared she would leave him behind. 
Confessions of a Shopaholic, female lead Rebecca Bloomwood ends up being a boss at her job at a magazine, but the film has a slightly weird undertone when she and her actual boss start flirting while he is still her superior. 

 

Thats not really what we are really about at Elsie and Fred as you all know, some films do a much better job at showing off the right kind of attitude, although Elle Woods in Legally Blonde went to Harvard to try and get her boyfriend back, she turned it around when she completed the course for herself, got a fellow sorority sister off a murder charge, stood up to a superior tutor who wanted to take advantage of her, and got her friend her dog back from an abusive ex. 

Who would of thought that a fictional character such as Bridget Jones would become such an influential character, she's a controversial one, in some ways it seems like she's a women who everyone can relate to when they are lonely, at times it feels a bit like she needs a partner to fulfil her, but she is also a beacon of hope after she batters constant references to her single life and how she should be settled down with baby number 2 by her 30's instead of focusing on her career, with grace and unadultered sarcasm. Bridget has helped to shift the archaic views that women should be housewives who need men to define them, and she wasn't too fased about being alone to accept dick head behaviour from any man. Indulge yourself in the humour and solidarity of Bridget but remember just because she drinks and smokes the whole film series is still a fictional fairytale where she ends up marrying the man of her dreams, which isn't a bad thing but isn't always real life.   

Kat Stratford, '10 Things I Hate About You', Kat was the brazen, teenage feminist at Padua High who's riot gurl behaviour got her in trouble but we loved her for it. She was intelligent, self aware, and not afraid to stand up for what is right, she is one of the few rom-com characters that had such overt feminist views and wasn't scared to show them. 

You know it's funny to see how far we have come (or not come) in terms of 90's and 00's films and sitcoms but it seems we still have some way to go. Let's not be super sensitive about everything we all like to have a laugh but it is important when we are growing up that we know these situations are not real life. So should we still be idolising these kinds of films that promote unhealthy relationships? Is it really that deep? Ask your friends, ask your mum, ask your teachers, siblings, work colleagues, we wanna know what you guys think. 

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